Defination of love

In this world, we see millions of poems, songs and novels are written about love as compare to any other topic.

So my friends questions rise "what is love?" and "How will we recognize it?". I think, in this universe two things are mystery for all of us. One  is god and other is love. So this is a  simple and complex question for all of us.

We can describe the love in both psychological way and biological way. In this article, i write about the definition of love in psychological way, such as "love is a set of attitudes, thoughts and idea besides the feelings". "Like other emotion, love is pleasant and unpleasant feelings. It leads to our behaviour to become silly, self-defending and  embarrassing".

Love is different types, but i am writing this blog only the explore of romantic love. So "the love is attraction and mature, adult love, which involves intimacy and commitment as well as passion between two persons".

One important things of love is the describe to be in the presence of a particular person, and only one wishes to be approved by that person, to care for and be cared for by that person. It is the desire to join physically with that person and to be intimate. And only one wishes to know all about that person. If these characteristics are present but are not intense, then this is called "like", not "love".

Love is different feeling and meaning for different people. Some people love means one is pleased by that person's physical  appearance and approves of his/her manner and way of talking. Some people love means thinks of future of meeting and what might happen in the meeting. They may fantasize about having sex with that person.

Love must beyond sex and passion, if it is mature. Everyone who loves must learn to respect his/her partner. He/she must identify her/his partner values. Everyone who loves are proud of their partner accomplishments and feel saddened by their partner disappointments.

When we want our relationship to go on forever, then trust is the important part of the relationship. When in our life, passion is less, then the relationship is end. When  love  is real, then it becomes a commitment to the partner. Love brings continuous increases the caring of our partner. We suffer, when love is reciprocated. These things are joy and pain of love.

Reference books:

1. Marvin Rosen, "The Brain and Love", Series of Brain works, Series Editor by: Eric H. Chudler, Chelsea House publishers, 2007
2. Allan and Barbara Pease, "Why Men Want Sex and Women Need Love", Manjul Publishing House, Indian
3. Allan and Barbara Pease, "Why Men don't listen and Women Can't read map", Manjul Publishing House, Indian

The love

The word  love is a big mystery for all of us. This is one of the simple and also a complex questions for all of us.

Modern science say that men and women have different thought when it comes to the love.

According to David Buss, Professor of Psychology at the University of Texas and his team searched for proof of romantic love in 147 cultures. They found that the proof of love is only cave drawings, manuscripts, poems, songs and books.

Just like a coin, love is also two faces. When we talking about love, most of people see the positive side of love. They imagine staring into a lover's eyes, holding hand of each other, singing love songs and all other 'happy-ever-after' stuff.  But love also a horror able side. According to David Buss and his team found proof of love potions, love charms, love spells, suicide and murder motivated by love won or lost spread throughout our human history

Actually the love fills us with exhilaration, despair, fear, revenge all at the same time.

Every culture and every country we find the proof of love. It means romantic love is universal and there must be a biological function for it.

Modern science told that love is about specific chemical reaction in our specific area of the brain

In scientific term love is a combination of dopamine, oxytocin, testosterone, oestrogen and norepinephrine. 

When our brain has identified a suitable partner, then our brain produce the chemicals for necessary to create the environment to attract the person.

Love at First sight phenomenon:

Modern science is prove that love at first sight is have at most of animal species.

When we fall love at first sight, our brain produce huge amount of chemicals, such as dopamine, and norepinephrine.  The feeling of love almost same if a person use drugs. The same things is happen in other species also.

Reference books:

1. John Gray "Why Mars and Venus collide" HopperElement, London
2. Allan and Barbara Pease, "Why Men Want Sex and Women Need Love", Manjul Publishing House, Indian
3. Allan and Barbara Pease, "Why Men don't listen and Women Can't read map", Manjul Publishing House, Indian